Sometimes when eating at a restaurant, a family or an individual experiences something cool, like a stranger paying for their meal. The first thing that an individual should do when a stranger wants to pay for their food, is always ensure to the stranger that they are capable of paying for it for themselves with all certainty. This way you don’t look like the individual that will just take free stuff offered to you, just because it is offered to you. Most likely other guests will be watching and listening too when thing like this happen.
An individual insisting on paying for their own food at a restaurant after a stranger offers to pay, is a sure way of settling down the uneasiness that the individual might have when placed in these situations. We are not insinuating that the stranger is doing something wrong by offering to pay for another customer’s food at a restaurant when they do offer. However, it can make the recipient feel a little strange at first.
Usually after an individual has been offered by a stranger that insists on paying for their food, after the individual has made it clear that they are capable of doing so themselves, then it is okay to let the stranger pay for the food if they want to. This way, if anything goes wrong afterwards by the stranger trying to guilt trip the recipient after they have payed for the food (this does happen sometimes in later comfrontations), later on in the future, they will be reminded that the individual was capable of paying for they own food before the stranger paid for it.
This all falls into the circumstance and the chance that the stranger was offering to pay for the food with the individual’s awareness of the situation before it was done. However, sometimes, this isn’t the case. Sometimes stranger are able to pay for an individual’s meal without the individual’s knowledge. If this is done, an individual should treat this circumstance just as they would when a restaurant gives them free food that they don’t have to pay for. It should be appreciated everytime.
In both circumstances, a “thank you” is sufficient. It is basically what most people want to hear after they do a good deed for someone else. Usually, this is all that is needed after a stranger decides to pay for an individual’s food. It is usually all they wanted, which was just to make that individual’s day a little better.
One thing that a recipient should never do is become offensive and lash out at a stranger, because they offered to pay for their food (or did pay for it). As mentioned, usually the stranger is doing it out of kindness, not because they think that the individual is incapable of paying. They are aware of the fact that people don’t have to spend money at a restaurant to get food in the first place in most circumstances. They could have just cooked food at home, or went to the grocery store.
In some circumstances a stranger will offer to pay for an individual’s food, because the individual just didn’t have enough money to buy what they were/are trying to order. Once again, the stranger is usually aware of the fact that the person paying for the food didn’t have to eat at the restaraunt to begin with, and that the individual should buy somethingthey can afford.
However, sometimes, the food has to be payed for after eating it, in which the individual may be unaware of the full costs until after the bill has arrived to the table. Sometimes the food given could be payed for by the guest until they found out that their only way of paying once the billed is received isn’t working.
In this case, if a stranger offers to pay for the meal, an individual should accept it with all humility and a grateful “thank you”. It is times like these that guests can be grateful for a kind stranger willing to pay for their food. Once again, there is no need for more than the gratefulness of the person having their food being paid for, to be done. In circumstances like this, sometimes the recipient will offer to return the favor in the future if they cross paths with the stranger again.
Speaking of which, some recipients will give the stranger cool coupons or offer them deals if they ever come across them in their profession of work. Sometimes this helps as doing a little more for the stranger if the recipient is in a high position at their job.
Also, unfortunately sometimes people can get to a point where they claim that no one ever does anything for them, but they never allow anyone to ever do anything for them when the opportunity arises. In other cases, some people expect people to always do things for them, when they really don’t have to. This is kind of like what it is like in this situation when a stranger pays for an individual’s food at a restaurant sometimes.
For instance, opening a door for a lady to walk into a restaurant doesn’t have to be done (in normal circumstances and customs). It is the choice of the person doing it to do it or not. A woman shouldn’t expect it to be done just because she is a woman. She also shouldn’t raise commotion about it when it isn’t done for her. It is the choice of any individual doing it to do it or not. If they have the power to do so themselves of course.
Understanding both sides of each person’s view (the stranger paying and the individual having their food payed for by the stranger) will help an individual better react to things like this when a stranger pays for their food. In every circumstance where a stranger pays for an individual’s or a family’s food at a restaurant out of kindness, they should be thanked at the least.
The stranger shouldn’t be made to feel as if they should be afraid to ask to pay for a person’s food at a restaurant, or only do it when absolutely necessary. Usually these things go a lot more smoothly when a stranger offers to pay for the food first to the individual before secretly paying for it. It makes most people feel like it is more welcoming and understanding. Either way, gratitude should be given with dignity still intact.